Wednesday, November 05, 2008

Disappointment, but the dream lives on

Today's election results are disappointing. Proposition 8 looks like it's going to pass, although there's a glimmer of hope, however faint that as of yet uncounted absentee and provisional ballots may push it to defeat.

So yes if you ask me what I think about the results this morning, I'm disappointed. But I also look at this very realistically. We had the opportunity of a lifetime. Never in my life before this year did I think that gay marriage was going to happen in my lifetime, much like the Berlin wall coming down, or the USSR dissolving, or an African American becoming president. Yet all these things happened, and I'm glad and proud to have witnessed all of them in my lifetime.

I wouldn't have changed anything we've done. Our marriage was one of the most precious things we could have done and I'm so glad our daughter Lauren was a part of it and she made such an impression on us. So as I've told some of my friends, being able to get get married was icing on the cake for us. Our marriage was about us, getting to state our love to each other and to our daughter, reaffirming our family, and we held our marriage with just ourselves and two friends as witnesses. Sure, we had a party later, but the wedding was private, affecting only us, and no one else.

So, if you ask me about Proposition 8, yes, I'm disappointed, but I'm glad we were part of this past year of gay marriage, and we'll continue to dream on about a world where equality prevails. It may seem like something that won't happen in our lifetime, but as we've lived to see, anything's possible.